ETS ACADEMY · LESSON 4

Week 4: Bring grace and truth into relationships

Teaching points

Begin with the identity of Jesus: John 1 presents the Word who became flesh. The passage’s primary subject is who Jesus is and how God is made known through him. Grace and truth are not merely a clever communication technique. Our relational application follows from the passage’s witness to Christ. Keep that order clear: first read what John says about Jesus; then ask how following Jesus should shape our conduct.
Avoid two shortcuts: One shortcut avoids an important truth to keep a conversation comfortable. Another delivers a true statement in a way that humiliates or dominates. Neither difficulty is solved by calling yourself “just honest.” Before correcting someone, distinguish a biblical conviction from a personal preference. Ask whether you understand what happened, whether you have the appropriate relationship to speak, and whether your goal is restoration or winning.
Make space for a response: A practical conversation can begin with permission, continue with a specific observation, include a question, and end with an agreed next step. This sequence is a course practice tool, not a biblical formula. Romans 1:16–17 directs attention to the gospel and faith; a polished conversation cannot produce faith on demand. Witness should be clear and patient. Respect a refusal to discuss, and never make material assistance conditional on someone’s willingness to hear your testimony.
Practice lab: A friend asks why you follow Jesus but also shares a painful church experience. Partner A listens for two minutes without defending an institution. Partner B then asks permission to explain their hope in Christ. Switch roles. The observer notes one specific example of listening and one example of clarity.
Worked example: A possible opening: “Thank you for telling me. Would you like me to listen, or would it help to hear why I still follow Jesus?” The person’s answer determines the next step.

Read in Scripture

John 1:1–18 and Romans 1:16–17

Reflect

What does John 1 say about Jesus before you draw a relational application?
Write a permission question, a truthful statement, and a listening question.
What boundary will help this conversation remain respectful?
What makes an honest statement needlessly harsh?
How can you explain your conviction without pretending every Christian agrees on every detail?
What is the main subject of John 1:1–18?
Does gracious speech require agreement with everything a person says?
What should you do when someone declines a spiritual conversation?

Put it into practice

With permission, have one brief spiritual conversation or make a needed apology. Listen before responding. Write what you learned, not what you assume about the other person’s motives. If no conversation is welcome, practice with a partner instead.
Choose an action, deadline, and accountability partner. Save your responses in your journal.

Framework supplied by Mareneo “Reno” Flournoy. Expanded teaching and exercises prepared with AI assistance for Jesus Generation Movement. Sources and credits →